I’m privileged for this opportunity to address you today
as my parents are honored by the yeshiva, as my parents and the yeshiva have
been the two most influential forces in my life, and carry much of the
responsibility for who I am today. I
would like to begin by expressing my deep appreciation to the rebbeim for the
caring, devotion and inspiration I received during my years in the
yeshiva. They have always been there to
instruct, to teach and to help. What they did for me and continue to do for me
is immeasurable and I cannot thank them enough. Beyond what the rebbeim do for
individual students, the impact of the yeshiva’s presence on the community has
been significant and deserves recognition. A considerable measure of the growth
of Torah in
This same dedication to building
Torah life in
Rabbi Elchonan Wasserman in his eulogy
for Rabbi Yisrael Meir Kagen, known as the Chofetz Chaim, made the point that
people have no idea of the true greatness of Tzaddikim, righteous people, until
the story of their private lives is told. Reb Elchonon went on to explain that
a tzaddik does not do good to make an impression on others, rather because it
is the will of G-d. He therefore tries
to hide his good deeds from the public eye not to detract from the purity. As a
result, the more we enter a tzaddik’s personal life, the more we recognize his
true saintliness. This idea applies very
much to my parents. The closer one is to them, the more he realizes the
uniqueness they posses.
I have been blessed with being raised in my
parents’ home, which allows me the opportunity to see them in their private
lives and to learn from their example, and many times just watch in wonder and
amazement. I would like to share some of
the things that I witness as their son that many others don’t have the
opportunity to see. The devotion to others including the concept of Chesed and
caring for others, even when it is difficult, was always one of the most
stressed principles in our home, both in words and actions. It is no secret
that my parents are people of Chesed. There are countless instances in which
people have been the beneficiaries of their chesed. Anyone who has ever stayed
at our house knows the Hachnosos Orchim, hospitality, that takes place
there. My parents’ sensitivity is
further portrayed from the fact that there is always an extra setting at our Shabbos
table so an extra guest will feel as if we were awaiting his arrival. There was
once a very prominent rabbi staying at our house for the weekend. As breakfast
was being served Sunday morning, he commented that the Hachnos Orchim in our
home is comparable only to that of Avraham. The hospitality is only one form of
chesed my parents perform. They are constantly giving Tzeddakah in many
different ways. If there’s someone that needs extra help, my parents always do
what they can.
As great as what they do may be, to
my parents it is really nothing special, it is just the obvious thing to do.
All the chesed they perform is quite remarkable in itself, but what makes what
they do so exceptional is the way they do it.
Our sages teach us that when Boaz fed Ruth, after she had not had food
since the death of her husband, Ruth was doing more for Boaz than he was doing
for her. The explains that
even though Ruth’s happiness of having food for the first time in a long time
was so great, the happiness that Boaz had from doing the mitzvah, the good
deed, was greater. This idea is very applicable to my parents. The happiness with which they perform chesed
is incredible. My father and mother truly realize that the recipients are doing
more for my parents than my parents are doing for them.
Other aspects that make my parents
so special are that they have much integrity and are very unassuming. Upon
meeting my father, one could not know that he was the same man that the
Commissioner of Major League Baseball referred to as one of his best lawyers
and one of the finest lawyers in the country.
When my father became Managing Partner in his law firm, his own children
and parents only found out months later when my mother told us.
I have mentioned a few things about
my parents and tried to give some sort of picture of who they really are, but
there’s really so much more to say.
Abba and Mom, on behalf of your
children and grandchildren, there is really no way for us to express how much
you mean to us and how blessed and proud we feel to have you as our parents.
Any words that we could say would only detract from our true feelings of love
and appreciation. We love you very much.
It is my pleasure to call upon
someone who has been more than just a very close friend to me. He was my roommate throughout my years in the
yeshiva here and during that time really became a member of the Jaspan family,
He made a special trip from